BBF has died for 6 months, I still miss him.
BBF has died for 6 months, I still miss him. #petgrief #pet lost a pet
How long does pet grief last?
While you may have expected to feel some sadness after an animal friend dies, you might be surprised by how long it persists. This persistence can contribute to the feelings of embarrassment many owners feel. You may wonder if it's normal to continue experiencing heartache months after your loss.
The timeline of pet bereavement can vary from person to person. It may be influenced by factors ranging from the suddenness of the death to whether you live alone. Research in the Clinician's Guide to Treating Companion Animal Issues indicates that about 25% of people reported intense grief lasting three to 12 months after a pet's death, 50% felt that way for 12 to 19 months, and 25% for 12 to 24 months.
How to cope with and process a pet’s death
Pet grieving is often a complex and non-linear process. Despite the popularity of models like the five Kübler-Ross grief stages, there may not be a universal roadmap to navigating bereavement. However, you can take a few steps to work on coping with this loss, including the following.
Be gentle with yourself
It's common for people who have lost pets to feel embarrassed, ashamed, or otherwise conflicted about their grief. If you've internalized the idea that it's "silly" to feel sorrow for your companion's death, you may benefit from being gentler with yourself. Researchers have identified self-compassion (forgiving yourself for perceived weakness or failure) as a beneficial factor in maintaining grief following a pet's death.
Self-compassion may also be helpful if you're dealing with guilt after euthanizing an animal. You might remind yourself that you made the best decision to minimize your pet's pain and recognize that there are often no easy answers when caring for an animal. Many people must make difficult choices for their pets, so remind yourself of the ways you supported and loved them throughout their life.
Talk with others who understand pet grief
Mourning the loss of a loved one can often be a social process, and strong networks of emotional support appear to defend against depression among bereaved people. Yet finding a sympathetic ear can feel challenging since the prevalence of intense grief after the death of a pet is not as widely understood.
It may help to seek out the company of fellow animal lovers or people who have lost a pet who may be able to empathize with your feelings. In addition to talking with others in your social circle who have lost pets, you may be able to find pet loss support groups in your area that can provide a sense of community.
Create a mourning ritual
Many cultures guide individuals toward rituals like funerals, wakes, and burial rites to express grief when a beloved human dies. However, many people don't have similar frameworks for mourning their pets, which can deprive them of a sense of closure.
Creating a grieving ritual might help you say goodbye to your pet and help you work through your sorrow. One option is to arrange a funeral in which you bury their remains or scatter their ashes, either by yourself or in the company of a few friends who knew them.
You may find some solace from minor gestures like lighting a candle, singing a song, or setting aside time to recollect treasured memories, as well. Any action that allows you to mark the transition between life with your pet and without them could help you further process your loss.
Honor your beloved pet's memory
Another potentially helpful way to grieve is by creating a tribute for your fallen friend. Though reminders of your pet may feel painful, making space in your life to celebrate the time you had together can help you constructively process their death. You might try the following ways of honoring their memory:
Placing a framed photo of your pet in a prominent spot
Preserving one or two of their favorite toys
Creating a marker for their grave and leaving flowers or mementos there
Donating in their name to an animal-focused charity
Creating a piece of artwork that reminds you of them
Making a small scrapbook of photos together
Consider adopting a new pet when you’re ready
When a pet dies, it's perfectly normal to experience a wide range of emotions, from feeling angry to losing interest in daily activities. The grief process can also lead to physical symptoms as your body and immune system react to the emotional stress. Looking at past photos or considering adopting a new animal from a humane society may be part of coping with losing a much-loved pet.
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