PS: solved using new board, see • esp32 ok upload
use info from https://github.com/espressif/arduino-...
docs from https://github.com/espressif/arduino-...
ESP32 development board (DOIY ESP32 DEVKIT V1) can be reset when push EN button, enter in upload mode by push and hold BOOT button, when puss EN buton, after than realise both buttons.. but not realy upload the sketch... see error: "Timed out waiting for packet header"