My Wife Is Crazy, What Should I Do?
Does your wife is crazy and you don't know what to do? Watch Paul gives you some helpful advice that you do on this problem.
I can't even tell you how many men I've met with and I certainly can't tell you how many of them
have said, "Paul, you don't understand. My wife is crazy." And every man thinks that it's true.
There's a reason for it. The reason why you think she's crazy -- I'm not saying she is. I'm not saying she's not but I'm going to tell you right now. Women don't think the way men think and I use the analogy of this. I say in a man's mind, it's all blocks some it's just like remember the Lincoln lungs. They're shaped differently but they all fit together into patterns and if you looked into a man's mind that's what you would see. But if you looked into a woman's mind, you would see a pot of spaghetti boiling, and this is a male perspective.
Women don't think the way men think. I don't even know if you could use the word "think" when it comes to how women process. Process is a better word. It's just not the same as it is for us
so we're going arf arf and they're going meow meow meow. There's like where's the communication and you might say, "Well, I'm not just talking about communication. I'm talking
about things that she does." Yeah, I understand. I understand that you don't understand but I also understand this and this is the part that you need to come to grips with. You didn't marry her because of her sanity. You married her because her heart is something that you know you could get lost in -- it's so deep. You've never experienced love like you do when you're tuned in
with your wife's heart. That's the magic for men and it's and I can explain it to you scientifically because we're in bodies and the bodies are male or female, and our bodies are male so psychophysiologically. In other words, our minds are so conditioned by our body's drive to survive and how it functions that we are warriors by nature.
What does that mean?
That means we're ready to go do battle. We are ready to defend the home. We're ready to defend our wife that's what we bring to the table for them. It's what they're looking for -- not to be abused. We're never to express anger or those kinds of things towards our wife that's used to fight off the danger but what they have and we could call it their soft spot. We could call it
but what it is is their love. They're in touch with that. They get confused because their love is mimicked by their emotions so they get caught up but we want their love. And so what I say to men, what I say to you is look past the craziness. Don't laugh at her outwardly, certainly don't criticize her. Don't point it out. She can't hear you anyway. Don't notice it and when she does
things that are crazy, just take it in stride. "Honey, it's okay."
If she notices a weird outcome as a result of her behavior just, "Honey, it's okay. I got it. We'll fix it, we'll fix it." Because remember, everything in the world is in transition anyway. There's no permanent breaking of anything that's important so relax. Put your attention instead of on her craziness and the results of her craziness put the emphasis in your marriage on the love that she has. Build the connection. Get back into the mode you were in when you were dating. Tell her how beautiful she is. Smile all the time. Never raise your voice. Don't do the don'ts and do the do's but more than that, start opening your heart to her.
Start seeing her in a spiritual way as the love of your life. Is now why you married her anyway?
And that's the way to deal with this. You're not going to change her. I almost said fixer but it doesn't require a fix. She's different. You're not going to change her. You're not going to institutionalize her. You're not going to throw her out or leave her because she's crazy. You
promise to be with her forever and ever, and that's what you want to do but you got to relax.
You got to calm down. You got to stop judging her and seeing her through these eyes of
expectation because that's what's really getting you into trouble, not her, but your expectations of her. So that's the best advice you will ever get in terms of how to be with your wife.
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your wife. She's a precious lover.
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