Why Are We Drawn to Complicated Relationships? ACA, Addiction, and Family Patterns
Why does one woman quickly leave a relationship that's miserable, while another stays with an addict for years, saving, controlling, hoping, and trying to change him?
Why do we sometimes understand perfectly well what's going on, yet continue to do exactly the same thing?
In this episode, Tatyana Osina and I talk about addicted women, ACA, codependency, and family systems. We discuss how our family experiences influence our choice of partner and what we generally consider love and a healthy relationship.
We discussed:
• why something familiar often feels like "mine," even if that familiar person has been deeply painful
• how codependency develops and why it's not just a story about "weak women"
• what happens to a child in a family with addiction
• how this experience later manifests itself in adult relationships
• why we rescue, control, and take responsibility for others
• why it's so difficult to break free from the familiar pattern
• and whether it's possible to stop living by your family's pattern
Without the idea that "parents are to blame for everything" and without pop psychology, where one podcast necessitates an immediate diagnosis of the entire family.
We'll explore what's really happening to us in relationships and what we can do about it as adults.