Values and Rules - The invisible compass directing your life
Your Values are the emotional states that you have decided, at the unconscious level, are most important for you to experience in your life.
Your Rules are what you have decided, at the unconscious level, has to happen for for to experience your values.
Hence the analogy of an invisible internal compass, driving our decisions in life!
Some examples of values include:
love and connection, happiness, control, excitement, security variety
consistency, comfort, health, calm, passion, etc.
We all have 'moving towards' values-the emotional states we want to experience the most or that give us pleasure (examples listed above), and 'moving away from' values-the emotional states we will do anything to avoid because they give us pain.
For example: guilt, shame, anxiety, stress, etc.
Now, importantly, it's not just the values that we hold dear. Many people share similar, or even the same, values. But what is different, and makes all the difference in the quality of our lives, is the order of our values. Which value is more important to us will determine our decisions.
It is our values hierarchy that is determining the decisions that we make, and it is our key decisions that shape our entire lives!
For example: If one person's highest values are consistency and security, and another person's highest values are variety and excitement, are they going to make different decisions?
For example, are they going to make different decisions regarding a career path?
Which one is more likely to be an entrepreneur?
Would it influence the partner they choose?
The vacation they take (or don't take)?
Their lifestyle?
Absolutely!
Your values are the compass that is guiding you through your life. They are guiding you to make certain decisions and take certain actions consistently. The direction of our lives is controlled by the magnetic pull of our values.
For the majority of people, these values-this invisible force that is shaping our entire lives, is buried in their subconscious.
Which would be all well and good, if we had consciously set it up in the first place, and our values hierarchy had permeated in our subconscious as an automated guiding force pulling us in the direction of our ideal life.
But here comes the kicker:
The majority of people never consciously set this system up. It has settled in our subconscious mind through our experiences with our peers, teachers, our culture, through our conditioning in childhood, through exposure to television and media, through the random experiences in our lives!
In this clip, I explain the topic broadly.
An overview, while still attempting to highlight the root of the concept :)
In future clips I will go deeper into the nuances of values and rules :)
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