Abandonment by Therapist and Psychological talk
This is me talking about my abandonment by my therapist, I didn't hear from him for 3 months and then he sent me a Skype message saying he was no longer my therapist and had moved on to a bigger agency. I'm not going to mention his name or the agencies name, but after the back and forth Skype messages, here are the final two, before I blocked him.
Him:
Okay since you got this off of your chest. Let's really discuss the truth here.
The agency is one that is in charge of telling you when a therapist of the clinical director (which was me)
is leaving. The agency is the one that would provid you with a therapist. However, since you live in Morrow, technically you were out of
our jurisdiction and therefor, they did not feel the need to notify you or your mother. In addition, to put this in true perspective, when we talked via phone or through skype,
I never charged the agency so you were getting free counseling. When I cam and visit you would be the only time I would charge the agency. So should I apologize? No. Because I knew two things. You would either be depressed or upset. Like you said before, I am a good therapist and I know that either way you would not be able to handle the termination in adult manner. If you wanted to
be treated as an adult then you have to accept change in a more positive outlook. Remember, that in life things will change and people will come and go, the best thing to do is to cherish the
time you have with them and not try to become the victim. Again, I wish you well and continue your journey in becoming the great singer one day.
Me:
Well once again with all do respect, it was I who did not want you to drive so much out of your way. You were the one who mentioned the skyping and calling, so please don't act as if you were doing me any favors as far as 'not charging' me. My insurance takes care of that. I would have much rather seen you face to face. I am not playing the victim, I just believe when someone who says "trust me I'm here to help you." And then vanishes, with really no reason, to a person with abandonment issues, in a field such as yours, owes them an explanation. And in my case, an apology. You were a good therapist. And a good person. But now my view of your character has unraveled. It's times like these when I want to step into the psychological field, and not treat patients the way they are treated. We were supposed to have a bond as therapist and patient. You said that yourself. And you go and break it. So on the terms of handling things like an adult, sir, I do believe I've handled this situation in a far more adultly manner than you, especially with your previous low blows and accusations in your previous message. I don't believe this is very high on the professionalism scale either. I talked very highly of you. Almost as a father figure. If I were to not handle this in an adultly manner I probably would have had my mother call you and give her opinion, because it is not in your favor, believe me. I've come a long way, for the going on three months you left me alone. You don't know the Hailey you knew then. This Hailey does NOT play the victim, and let's get the definition of 'play' straight, it means pretend, joking, I never was 'playing' a victim. I WAS and AM a victim. But now I stand up for myself when I feel something is wrong, or I have been wronged. Indeed people come and go, I am one who well knows that. But what you did was truly unprofessional in your proffession. I hope you learn from this experience. I may be mentally Ill, from people who do things such as you have done to me now, but I'm not stupid. For this being our last conversation, I'd like you to know I do plan on continuing my singing career. Since your idea fell through, the meeting I was promised never happened and other things of that nature. I've taken it upon myself to find a place to sing. This may be our last albut bitter talk, but you certainly haven't heard Hailey Dakota Jackson's name for the last time. Goodbye, Mr. ________.
Please, talk to me guys. For those of you on this channel, I had started a "Mental Illness and me" Channel. / pwperfection
I am now combining the two, like I am piercings and beauty, rants and such. This channel is still MAINLY for MUSIC and my SINGING.
For those of you who don't know, my Mental Illnesses are: Generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety, PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) Mixed bipolar, Major-depressive disorder, possible add or adhd. If you have any questions, need any help I AM HERE, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
By the way, he got where I lived wrong. Wow, way to pay attention. I'm not saying Therapists should know every detail, but you owe me an explanation AND an apology. There's a STIGMA behind Mental Illness. But the real problem? The "Professionals" WHO ARE SUPPOSED to "help" us.