Should I Have Sex with My Ex?
I've been working on this episode for over six months, researching and waiting, and thinking and laughing. "Should" questions or statements are a very powerful way we organize our judgment of ourselves and others, a way of saying, there's shame if you don't behave the way I think you /should/. I don't like them. And I don't like being on the receiving end.
I judge too. I catch myself in hypocrisy. Don't yuck, someone else yum. But there I am poking holes in the lifestyle or personal choices of others like I'm some sort of all-knowing guru of existence. I'm not.
There isn't a should about whether or not you have sex with your ex. Unlikely that anything applies to everyone or all of time and place. Life is too diverse for a system of shoulds and musts. I think.
So if I or you or someone else is sleeping with an ex or isn't -- all I ask is that you not pack shame onto that decision and stay curious.
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Chapters:
00:00 Intro
01:09 Benefits and risk factors of breakup sex
02:45 What does the research say?
03:23 Perspectives
04:07 My experiences with breakup sex
04:28 Takeaways
06:21 Bloopers
Videos:
Decisions, Decisions: How to Make Hard Choices! (ft. Dr. Lindsey Doe!)
• Decisions, Decisions: How to Make Hard Cho...
How to Break Up with Someone the RIGHT Way (ft. Dr. Lindsey Doe!)
• How to Break Up with Someone the RIGHT Way...
Break Up First Aid Kit
• Break Up First Aid Kit
Sources:
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https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1...
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22946...
https://link.springer.com/article/10....
https://www.elitedaily.com/p/is-havin...
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28485...
https://www.forbes.com/advisor/legal/...
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
https://www.bustle.com/wellness/thing...
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1...