Giving and Receiving Actually Useful Advice
YouTube and Twitter is full “things developers should never do”. There's endless demand for simple advice that applies in all situations.
And thats not a bad thing. If there's a simple solution that works 80% of the time, this is useful information. More useful than just "it depends".
But advice givers and advice getters can do better. The best advice doesn't just solve an immediate problem. It tells you when to ignore this advice, and what to do if the problem isn't solved.
I share a very old story about a time I needed help sizing a connection pool, the advice I got, and the advice I now wish someone gave me.
P.S
Sorry about the audio quality. I had to record outside, and the lav mic I used wasn't as good as my desk mic.