Red Flags, Icks, and Toxic Traits… Is Dating Doomed?
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Chapters:
00:14 - Icks
01:45 My first time getting the ick
02:38 - The psychology of icks
02:51 - The evolutionary perspective
04:22 - The attachment style perspective
05:30 - The having different values perspective
06:33 - The it’s complex perspective
07:19 - What to do when you experience the ick
07:47 - You don’t have to go through it alone
09:42 - Red flags
09:44 - What’s a red flag?
10:30 - Breaking down a common red flag
11:48 - An example from my life
12:47 - Calling you out
14:05 - Have red flags gone too far?
15:15 - Gaslighting
15:17 - What is gaslighting?
15:30 - What it can look like
18:20 - Scenario example
19:26 - Not necessarily a red flag
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