Involuntary Virgin: I Have Vaginismus! | How Does Sexuality Determine My Life? Episode 2
Tabea has never had sexual intercourse. Not because she hasn't wanted to. But because she can't have (vaginal) sex. Tabea suffers from vaginismus. This means that while others can experiment and relax, for her, the mere attempt to insert something into her vagina is extremely painful.
Vaginismus is a painful condition in which the pelvic floor muscles contract unconsciously and reflexively. This means that nothing can penetrate the vagina without pain – not a finger, not a tampon, and certainly not a penis.
Vaginismus is therefore a severe psychological burden for many people. Useless tips like "Relax!" or "Drink a little alcohol!" have only increased Tabea's insecurity. Whether in her love life, everyday life, or leisure time, her vaginismus burdens her in various situations.
But she doesn't even know exactly why she has vaginismus. This year, Tabea has resolved to finally tackle it. She is currently undergoing therapy to understand the causes of her vaginismus. She also regularly does relaxation exercises and pelvic floor training, as this can help cure her vaginismus. Frank also allows her to talk to someone she is currently dating...
In this episode, you'll see how to react when you find out that your partner can't have sex and how Tabea deals with her vaginismus.
00:00 - 00:40 Welcome
00:40 - 01:13 How does she notice vaginismus?
01:13 - 01:50 What is vaginismus?
01:50 - 02:16 How does vaginismus develop?
02:16 - 03:10 What does vaginismus mean for everyday life?
03:10 - 04:08 Can the choice of partner influence vaginismus?
04:08 - 07:00 What's it like to date someone with vaginismus?
07:00 - 07:55 What can you do about vaginismus?
07:55 - 11:03 How do you react to vaginismus?
11:03 - 12:15 Dilators for vaginismus
12:15 - 13:09 Pelvic floor exercises for vaginismus
13:09 - 13:33 Causes of vaginismus
13:33 - 15:49 Exercises for vaginismus
15:49 - 16:51 How should you deal with vaginismus?
Episode 2 of the question "How does sexuality determine my life?"
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• Wie bestimmt Sexualität mein Leben?
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