How Positive Memories Reignite Attachment
In this powerful video, Dr. Christine Cocchiola explains what “positive memories” actually mean when parenting children impacted by coercive control and fractured attachment.
✨ Reigniting attachment is not about giving in.
✨ It is about meeting a traumatized child where they are.
When children are living within coercively controlling family systems, they often return to the protective parent dysregulated, distant, angry, withdrawn, or emotionally flooded.
And protective parents are left wondering:
“How do I reconnect with my child when everything feels tense?”
✨ In this episode, Dr. Christine explores:
• What positive memories really look like
• Why traumatized children often push protective parents away
• How fractured attachment affects behavior
• Why connection must come before correction
• How small moments of safety rebuild trust
• The importance of emotional regulation for protective parents
• Why shame creates further disconnection
• How abusers gain power through fractured attachment
• What it means to “meet your child where they are” psychologically
Sometimes reigniting attachment looks very simple:
🩵 Leaving their favorite meal outside the door
🩵 Staying calm when they push you away
🩵 Showing them you are still there
🩵 Reminding them you are not broken
Children need to know:
“No matter how overwhelmed you feel…
No matter how dysregulated things become…
I will still be here.”
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