Frustrated Moms -10 Temper Triggers with Solutions
10 angry triggers that upset overworked moms includes solutions. You'll find a checklist of kids' annoying behaviors and 10 easy trigger busters you can start using today.
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Children misbehave. Parents feel frustrated. Anger flares.
Imagine coming home from work to a mess like:
1. Scattered toys
2. Dirty dishes
3. Loud video games?
If you got angry, who could blame you?
When parents are exhausted, it’s easy to yell:
1. You’re so lazy!
2. You never help!
3. You’re so selfish!
They may feel good “letting off steam.”
But later it turns to regret.
They want kids to be neat and considerate.
But kids aren’t thinking about moms.
Kids just want to eat, play, and have fun.
Here are 10 Common Temper Triggers Parents Face:
1. Messy bedrooms
2. Dirty dishes
3. Scattered toys
4. Kids arguing
5. Loud video games
6. Won’t get out of bed
7. Late for school
8. Sloppy homework
9. Bedtime battles and more
10 Whining
First, say “No” to the anger. Then:
1. Calm your emotions.
2. Change your thoughts.
3. Make a practical plan.
10 Trigger Busters Parents Can Use:
1. Calm Emotions - breathe deeply. Slowly count backwards from 20.
2. Tell kids, “I need time to decide how to handle this.”
3. Let them wait and wonder.
4. Go outside. Breathe fresh air.
5. Change angry thoughts by using self-talk like:
a. My kids aren’t trying to anger me.
b. This isn’t terrible or awful.
c. I CAN handle this without anger.
6. Make a practical plan by going for a walk and thinking things through.
7. Decide what to say and visualize saying it firmly.
8. Set limits using “First this, then that.”
a. First, do your homework, then you can play one video game.
b. First, wash the dishes, then you can play outside.
c. First, get ready for bed, then I’ll read you a story.
9. When ready, tell your kids what you’ve decided.
10 Notice their progress with warm hugs and honest praise like:
• I like how neatly you folded your laundry and put it away.
• Your homework looks organized and your printing is clear.
• Thank you for washing the dishes and putting them in the cupboard.
• I enjoyed hearing you talk nicely to each other.
• Your teeth sparkle and you’re ready for a story.
• I appreciate how nicely you get ready for school.
• After you said the dinner was yummy, I felt so good.
• Thanks for bringing your bike in before it rained.
• I’m grateful that you kept your video’s volume low.
• I liked your respectful tone when I told you to make your bed.
Rage shatters relationships. But specific compliments warm hearts and bring families together.
You CAN control your temper and raise responsible loving children.