How to say no (without feeling bad) Top tips from Psychology
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Do you find it hard to say no to people? If so, here are 4 tips from research in psychology that will help you say no when you want to without feeling bad about it.
00:00 - Start
00:24 - Tip 1: Satisfaction not guaranteed
01:19 - Tip 2: Negate your blindside
02:09 - Tip 3: Mind your language
03:11 - Tip 4: Increase the stakes
References:
Patrick, V. M., & Hagtvedt, H. (2012). “I don’t” versus “I can’t”: When empowered refusal motivates goal-directed behavior. Journal of Consumer Research, 39(2), 371-381.
Sato, T., McCann, D., & Ferguson-Isaac, C. (2004). Sociotropy—Autonomy and Situation-Specific Anxiety. Psychological reports, 94(1), 67-76.
Sun, J., Neufeld, B., Snelgrove, P., & Vazire, S. (2022). Personality evaluated: What do people most like and dislike about themselves and their friends?. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 122(4), 731.
Wieber, F. & Gollwitzer, P. (2010). Overcoming procrastination through planning. In C. Andreou & M. D. White (Eds.), The thief of time: Philosophical essays on procrastination (pp. 185–205). Oxford University Press.
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