Interview Replay: How to Be A Solid Hinge in a Non-Monogamous Relationship
In this video, I sit down with Sarah Stroh, the creator of the Monogamish Substack, to talk about one of the most complex roles in consensual non-monogamy: being a hinge partner — the person connecting multiple non-monogamous relationships at once.
This conversation was inspired by my new resource, The Hinge Handbook, a practical guide for anyone navigating multiple relationships with clarity, integrity, and emotional sustainability.
We cover essential topics for polyamorous and open relationships, including:
✨ How to be a steady hinge without burning out or damaging trust
✨ Navigating New Relationship Energy (NRE) while staying attuned to long-term non-monogamous partners
✨ Clear disclosure boundaries so you’re not processing one relationship inside another
✨ Choosing capacity over compatibility when needs or timelines don’t match
✨ Understanding how hierarchy and couple’s privilege exist in non-monogamy in a transparent, consent-based way
✨ Somatic tools for hinges — pause words, window-of-tolerance check-ins, grounding rituals, and transitions between partners
✨ Care plans for asymmetry and emotional recovery when dynamics feel uneven or overwhelming
If you’re practicing polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, or open relationships and you’ve ever felt pulled in multiple directions, unsure how to stay grounded, or worried about balancing everyone’s needs, this conversation offers practical frameworks, embodied tools, and language to support you.
Whether you’re new to non-monogamy or deep into your journey, you’ll find insights to help you move from overwhelm to steadiness.
Watch now and learn how to navigate the hinge role with more confidence, nervous-system awareness, and relational integrity.
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Monogamish by Sarah Stroh: https://monogamish.substack.com
Navigating Non-Monogamy with Aria Diana: https://ariadiana.substack.com/