3 Bad Habits We All Do In Our Relationship That Will Lead To Break Up
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Bad Habits We All Do In Relationships:
1. "Moving on" or "dropping it" after a fight instead of actually making up
This is so powerful you guys and I'm so happy to be talking about this right now. This is what saved my relationship from destruction. Actually making up was a rule me and my partner made at the beginning of our relationship but you can do anytime which is the amazing part of this.
a lot of times couples think after a fight if they just "drop it" and move on is making up. Some people even think that having sex after the fight is making up, but I'm here to tell you it's not. in fact, that is far from how to makeup and this is a bad habit couples do.
the reason you don't just want to move on and drop it is because there are unresolved things either you or your boyfriend never got to say, and although you're not gonna break up the next day if those unresolved thoughts don't come out, what happens is that it those emotions pile up when the next fight comes around.
And if you drop it again, then you have even more thoughts and emotions that go unresolved. and eventually, emotions get stuffed and continue to build and build on top of each other. Then one day, you get in a fight, and there is a HUGE exposition.
So many couples are baffled why this happens thinking they were doing so well. But in fact, you weren't doing well. you were just 'MOVING ON' instead of resolving and truly makeup after a fight.
2. Compromise. you all have heard that word and know what compromise is, but let me give get down the bottom line of what that means and the importance of it.
The premise is making sure both of you get your way in some way shape or form. (the person who is not getting their needs met will get hostility.
Both people need to feel important and like they are equal parts of the relationship. And will hold secrets eventually because they know there's no room for compromise.
3. Keeping secrets in a relationship (the point on a relationship is to come together but when you're hiding a secret it becomes your identity that is different from your boyfriend so it splits your apart)