How Childhood Trauma Shapes Our Behavior
If you've ever felt the weight of people pleasing or the deep ache of feeling unloved, you're not alone. This conversation dives into how early childhood trauma can shape our behaviors, leading to these patterns. Discover insights into your own healing journey and steps toward profound trauma recovery.
"I didn't think I was lovable. That people pleasing goes back to the things we experience as children."
This conversation with Ebony gets to the heart of why so many of us became people pleasers—and how we break free.
What we explore in this video: 🌟 How early childhood trauma (even at 2-3 years old) shapes who we become 🌟 Why trauma survivors become "pick me" people pleasers 🌟 The connection between feeling unlovable and seeking validation from the wrong people 🌟 How to shift from people pleasing to self-love 🌟 What it means to make decisions from "me first"
The hard truth: When you experience trauma as a young child—gunfire through your house at 2 years old—you're not just dealing with PTSD. You're learning survival strategies.
We become people pleasers. We're doing anything we can for someone to show us some love. "Pick me! Choose me!"
But here's what happens: We're seeking it from the wrong people. People who don't have the capacity to give us what we need because they themselves are probably survivors dealing with their own trauma.
My journey through this: Learning truly about self-love, to where every single decision I make today is driven by "Beth first."
Not in a selfish way—I still consider how my decisions impact others. But it comes from me first. The person I'm pleasing now is me.
That's the shift: from desperately seeking external validation to learning that you are worthy of your own love and of being prioritized.
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Were you a "pick me" person? How did you break free from people pleasing? Share your story in the comments.
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