Why You're Not 100% Wrong in the Family Breakdown
You're Never 0% or 100% at Fault. Here's Why That Matters.
In any conflict between two people, everybody sits on what I call the "fault scale."
On one end: 0% at fault On the other end: 100% at fault
And here's what we all know: None of us are ever 0% or 100% at fault in any interaction.
The reality? We're all probably somewhere in the 20-80% or 30-70% range. In conflicts like estrangement, my experience is we're probably closer to 50-50.
What this means: Everybody's contributing to the state of the relationship.
If you've made the choice to estrange, I want you to hear me saying a few things:
First: I see you.
Second: I have felt your pain that caused you to get to the place where you made the choice to estrange.
Third: I've also felt the consequences. It's not a good place to be. It's a lose-lose place for everyone. There's fallout.
Understanding the fault scale doesn't mean you were wrong to estrange. It means relationships are complex. Both people contribute. And your reasons for protecting yourself are still valid.
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