Love Hurts, Scars, Wounds AND Is Designed To Emotionally Heal You
Love Hurts, Love Scars, Love Wounds, Love Marks AND Love Is Designed To Emotionally Heal You - Mark Smith shares the 4th installment in his series on 'Broken People Dating Broken People'
“The goal of your relationship should be emotional healing, NOT happiness! Happiness will come after the pain, the hard work and the healing.”
“If your couple’s therapy doesn’t focus on family of origin work it isn’t therapy at all.”
“Therapy should be deep, emotional, exhilarating, fun, funny, fascinating, and sacred.”
“The type of person you are attracted to and the person who hurt you the most as a child have the same psychological DNA.”
In the Immortal words of the band Nazareth…
Love hurts,
Love scars,
wounds and marks
Any heart Not tough or strong enough To take a lot of pain, take a lot of pain
Love is like a cloud
Holds a lot of rainLove hurtsOoh, ooh, love hurts
I'm young, I know, but even so
I know a thing or two
I learned from you
I really learned a lot, really learned a lot
Love is like a flame
It burns you when it's hot
Love hurts
Ooh, ooh, love hurts
Some fools think of happiness, Blissfulness, togetherness
Some fools fool themselves,
I guess They're not foolin' me
I know it isn't true
I know it isn't true
Love is just a lie Made to make you blue
Love hurtsOoh, ooh, love hurtsOoh, ooh, love hurts
I know it isn't true
I know it isn't true
Love is just a lie
Made to make you blue
Love hurtsOoh, ooh, love hurtsOoh, ooh, love hurtsOoh, ooh...
Songwriters: Bryant Boudleaux
© Sony/atv Acuff Rose Music
Popular Paradigm - “You shouldn’t have to work so hard to have a happy relationship.”
Another Popular Paradigm – eHarmony
The Correct Paradigm…- I only know one thing…you marry your unresolved childhood issues
Tony Soprano’s girlfriend
Age 18 to early 30’s - Enmeshment, Bait & Switch
24 year old lambs being led to slaughter
Mask at the alter analogy
In mid-life you may only get 3 to 6 months of enmeshment
Paradigm Shift - enlighten the ‘victim’
Today a man went from insensitive, self-absorbed. Invisibility maker to just a man (newspaper at breakfast), From adversaries to empathetic therapy buddies
80% - too much pain (abandonment), too young, too defensive, too Narcissistic, too victimy
-You need a ‘Broken People Dating Broken People’ dating coach
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