Self Care and Trauma Healing During Relationship Crisis
Kristin Snowden, MA, LMFT, CDWF is a licensed therapist and coach that specializes in helping individuals and couples in crisis after infidelity, emotional abuse, and/or uncovering addiction issues. She provides FIVE STEPS to take during a relationship crisis to manage your stress and trauma. The five steps are:
1) Understand the mind, body, and emotional impacts of experiencing relationship crisis and betrayal trauma create when you uncover your loved one's unknown addiction (sex, porn, substance use, etc.), infidelity, or experiencing the extreme emotional abuse, neglect, gaslighting, and manipulation that occur before, during, and after the crisis
2) Develop boundaries, consequence structure, goals, and things you'll need to feel safe again (usually with the help of a support group and/or professional)
3) Seek out professional help from those who specialize in this topic and understand the nuances
4) Develop and implement a consistent self-care routine to help you manage your stress and trauma-wiring
5) Build and engage a support network of professionals, groups, recovery communities, and other betrayed partners.
Self-Care Worksheet here: https://www.kristinsnowden.com/2022-c...
(This is educational, NOT THERAPY)
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Timestamps:
1:33 Moving through teh crisis, fear, "stuck" state and into healing
2:16 Step 1: Understanding the mind, body, and emotional impact of relationship crisis and betrayal trauma
3:11 The lying, sneaking around, and double life that exists when someone's cheating or hiding an addiction
4:40 Additional stressors that often surface during crisis
10:25 Step 2: Where do you want to go from here? What are your needs for treatment? Healing? Your goals? Boundaries?
11:40 Importance of keeping a support group around you to consult and help with boundaries
12:15 Suggested list of boundaries
13:14 Implementing consequence for cheating/addict partner
14:25 Step 3: Seek professional help so they can help you navigate these unique circumstances
16:48 Topics to work on in therapy: trauma, shame, processing grief and loss
17:45 Trauma treatment should include: acknowledging what happened that wasn't ok, have a person or support validate that, go over trauma with down-regulation, and create a story of empowerment around it
19:40 Step 4: Develop a consistent self-care routine
21:54 "What happened to you wasn't your fault but you are responsible for your healing."
22:00 Every nervous system requires different types of self care to up or down-regulate
23:09 Trauma takes your power and connection away--self-care tools are supposed to return a sense of choice and power over yourself
24:20 Explore empathy and compassion along with parts work
26:18 Develop mindfulness practice--its simply paying attention
27:56 Menu of self-care options https://www.kristinsnowden.com/2022-c...
30:30 Step 5: build your support network
33:00 Importance of reaching out to others in crisis, being around others who have struggled similarly and why that can feel hard
36:09 Importance of creating a plan, routine, scheduling during crisis--something to fall back on
KRISTIN'S FREE LIVE WEBINARS EVERY ODD MONTH, THE SECOND WEDNESDAY OF THE MONTH AT 9:30 AM (pacific time) through SexandRelationshipHealing.com . Zoom link: https://zoom.us/j/244109360
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