Fear Rejection? Craving Validation? You Might Be The Pursuer In Your Relationship
Some of the more challenging aspects of relationships come down to the The Pursuer and Distancer/Withdrawer dynamics. Often one of the partners is 'The Pursuer', the one who is looking for more connection and validation. Yet because of their past experiences, it does not feel fulfilling and they may come across as possessive and insecure. They've developed a somewhat #Anxious #Attachment style and have learned to pursue their partner and aspects of the relationship.
⏳ Timestamps ⏳
0:00 The Pursuer
0:35 Need for connection
0:56 Behaviour
1:10 Internal
1:35 Provocative
1:57 Intimacy
2:13 Dance, Pursuer & Distancer
2:41 They may have learned
3:05 In short
I have used the following book to guide this conversation:
Cassidy, J., & Shaver, P. R. (2016). Handbook of Attachment, Third Edition: Guilford Publications.
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