Sex Influenced By Your Love Patterns? | Pursuer & Distancer Intimacy
Sex and your relationship role can impact your reason for having sex. Your attachment style and being more of a Pursuer or Distancer, impacts usually how you feel about sex with a long-term partner.
In this video, I talk about how it may impact your relationship to have a more secure or insecure attachment style and sexual fantasies that may come with these patterns.
⏳ Timestamps ⏳
0:00 Sex & Attachment
0:30 Attachment impacts sex
0:50 What is sexual intimacy for someone with a secure attachment?
1:08 What is sexual intimacy for someone with an insecure attachment?
1:27 What are sexual motivations for a pursuer?
2:04 What are sexual fantasies for a pursuer?
2:28 What are sexual motivations for a distancer?
3:30 Is sex intimate?
3:43 What are sexual fantasies for a distancer?
4:03 How is sex for pursuer & distancer in a relationship?
I've used the following to guide this topic:
Birnbaum, G. (2016). Attachment and sexual mating: The joint operation of separate motivational systems. In J. Cassidy & D. Shaffer (Eds.), Handbook of Attachment: Guilford Publications.
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