2 Things You Can Do When Someone Is Stonewalling! | Toxic Communication
Stone-wall-ing: THE behaviour that makes you say "hello are you listening to me?!". People feel often rejected when someone stonewalls them. BUT the person who 'stone-walls' often has different and good intentions! Are you feeling rejected, ignored or not listened to - or are you feeling overwhelmed and are trying to calm down?!
Stonewalling is one of the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse (Dr Gottman): Defensiveness, Criticism, Stonewalling and Contempt. These are the 4 styles of Toxic Communication that will damage your relationships and often lead to breakups and hurt.
In this video, I talk about what to do when stonewalling happens to you or your partner!
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⏳ Timestamps ⏳
0:00 Changing stonewalling
0:43 Four horsemen
1:00 How can stonewalling look like?
2:07 Why does someone stonewall?
2:30 The heart-rate of a stonewaller
2:48 Why stonewall?
3:02 What can you do when someone stonewalls?
3:15 How to take a break from an argument
3:42 Why a safeword can help you during an argument
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