Fear Commitment? Craving Independence? You Might Be The Distancer In Your Relationship
Some of the more challenging aspects of relationships come down to The Distancer and Pursuer dynamics. Often one of the partners is 'The Distancer', the one who is more withdrawn and can avoid demands from their partner. Some have developed a somewhat #Avoidant #Anxious #Attachment Style and can find demand and vulnerability overwhelming.
⏳ Timestamps ⏳
0:00 The Distancer
0:23 What Are Attachment Styles?
0:42 What Is A Distancer?
1:07 Internally
1:46 Coping Independence
2:03 Intimacy
2:33 They Might Have Learned
2:50 Dance Distancer & Pursuer
3:30 In Short
I have used the following book to guide this conversation:
Cassidy, J., & Shaver, P. R. (2016). Handbook of Attachment, Third Edition: Guilford Publications.
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